“Dig Deep”: The Lesson I Learned From Disney’s Beauty and the Beast

I just saw an advertisement showing that Beauty and the Beast, is being re-released this weekend. Since I love this movie, I thought it would be fitting to start my series on relationships with a lesson learned from a Disney movie.

When I was growing up, the Disney princes were what us young girls thought of as our “dream” guys.  Huesmann (1988) suggests that when children view television, they learn about many aspects of society. They gain knowledge of the attitudes and behaviours that are acceptable to society. The children learn from television by copying the behaviours that are portrayed on it. Therefore, if a behaviour is shown on television to be acceptable and valued by their society, the children will learn to emulate that behaviour.

If you haven’t seen Beauty and the Beast, you should watch it, as the movie is a classic.

I learned the valuable lesson of “Digging Deep” from watching Beauty and the Beast.

The Beast is portrayed to be really aggressive and unsightly, someone that you shouldn’t want to fall in love with.  Initially, you think “Why would Belle want him? He’s not attractive, and he’s really angry.” However, throughout the course of the movie, Belle spends more time with him and you realize there is a connection between them. (Or should I say, there is something there that wasn’t there before :) )

At the end of the movie, Belle falls for the Beast despite his appearance and kisses him.  Their kiss breaks his spell, and he is transformed back into the super “attractive” prince that he was before the spell.

The movie taught me and everyone else who watched it that when it comes to relationships, the inside is more important than the physical appearance.

See, I still remember the valuable lessons I learned from watching Disney movies!!  Maybe I should think of the other lessons I learned.  Thank you, Disney, for influencing individuals in a positive way.

It’s funny, because I haven’t seen the movie in years; yet, I remember the story and the lyrics to all the songs.  Funny how that happens.

My question of the day for you is:  If you saw “The Beast” in person or his picture on an online dating site, would you talk to him or ignore him?


Have you learned any life lessons from watching Disney Movies? If so, what?

Thank you for reading and your presence at this beach retreat. You Rock! I’m looking forward to hearing your thoughts in the comment section below.

See you at the beach!


11 thoughts on ““Dig Deep”: The Lesson I Learned From Disney’s Beauty and the Beast

  1. Yuck!

    I would talk to him but I would never date the beast… because I’m a guy.

    Seriously though, everyone deserves a chance. If I could see signs of being able to connect I would like to say yes. In the moment, I would hope my shallow side didn’t kick in.

    1. Its true everyone does deserve a chance. How do we challenge people to look past only focusing on the physical side of person? I don’t know.
      It is easy to say something but to actually act that out is another story.

      Anthony – I’d be interested in your perspective on an article I wrote a while ago – “Can men and women be friends” http://ariannasrandomthoughts.com/2011/07/09/is-there-such-a-thing-as-just-friends-the-complicated-dynamic-between-men-and-women/.

      I’m curious to hear what more men think of it.

  2. I was watching Shrek over Christmas, and thought the same as you. Would I be able to see beyond the ugly, ogre to give him a chance to show his caring and funny side? I hope I would but am not 100% convinced!

  3. Hi Arianna :) I’m a friend of your middle sister :) And I just wanted to say I absolutely love your blog, it’s very insightful. I just wanted to comment on this post. I think it’s such an important one because girls especially have unrealistic expectations of guys, and as you mentioned these are often influenced by the media or society’s ideas. I think it is crucial to at least try and look beyond the external and look for good qualities of substance in a person that are essential for a solid relationship. As cliche as this sounds, appearances really are deceiving. I’ve seen “good-looking” guys turn out to be total nightmares when it comes to how they truly are as human beings, and “not-so-good-looking” guys to be amazing people. Young women and men need to understand this because they could be making a big mistake in going after the poster boys/girls with no real qualities, rather than the true gems. Keep up the great work on your blog! :)

    1. Hey! Thanks for the kind words. It’s nice to meet you – if only electronically. I have heard a lot about you. Congrats on graduating!! Thanks for the support. Feel free to comment whenever you feel inclined and share stories.
      So true, I was just watching the Big Bang Theory tonight and I’m glad they are challenging people’s preconceptions and causing people to dig deeper.
      If you come across any material on the topic – please feel free to share :) Looking forward to meeting you in person some day.

  4. Beauty and the Beast was and still is my favorite. I think that despite the voices against Disney and the Princesses, I still think there was a lot to learn from the movies – especially Belle. To me, she seems most independent of all of them and would give up being accepted for her dreams. The only thing she wouldn’t give up was family. But anyway, even when she could leave the beast she stayed to take care of him.

    I think most people would pass up the Beast but the best relationships -and love- comes from sticking with someone when they are at their best and worst.

    1. Thanks for sharing. Totally agree about sticking with someone through their best and worst. I find nowadays people only want to to be with someone at their best and when they show signs of their worst, they get up and leave and dont want to work it out. No one is perfect and everyone has a dark side, (as the Kelly Clarkson song says).

      I agree Family and relationships are so important.

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