Vulnerability Does Not Equal Weakness

Posted by on March 17, 2012

I love when messages come into our hearts at the moment we need them the most.  I had such a chance encounter today.

I went into a coffee shop this morning for my morning java, where I saw numerous people on their laptops.  As I was waiting in line, I overheard people talking about their favourite blogs.  There it hit me: my thoughts are online and totally public.  Anyone can access my blog and know the random thoughts that are going through my head. All of a sudden, I became a little anxious about “putting myself out there” through my blog.  I feared that people may judge me, thinking I am weak for exposing my insecurities and being vulnerable on my blog.

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That was my morning.  It got me thinking, why am I doing this?  Why am I putting myself out there in this critical society? Should I be quiet, and not share? But then I checked out my blog’s visitor count, and saw almost 20,000 visitors!  I realized that I am so blessed to have my readers and contributors in my life!  Thank you to all of you, readers and contributors! This count re-affirmed that I must continue my vision for my blog, as it is important to me, and to others. Like a good friend told me yesterday, she loves my blog, as it is “self-help on steroids.” It gives her hope.

Reasons why I will continue to be vulnerable and share through my blog:

1) I know I am on the right track, as it is challenging.  The best things in life take risks.

2) Speaking up used to scare me. But, as Susan Jeffers says, “Feel the Fear and do it ANYWAY!”

3)The letters I get from readers saying they have been inspired.

4) I love sharing and meeting new people. I have amazing readers and contributors. You give me strength to persist.

5) Mental health issues need to be talked about.

6)There are so many life lessons to share.  We should never stop learning!

After realizing that readers and contributors are benefitting from me putting myself out there on my blog, I heard a new talk by Brene Brown.  Her first message shows that vulnerability is not weakness; rather, it is courage.  Then I went online and heard the new talk by Brene Brown, and her first message is that vulnerability is not weakness its courage.  She started talking about how she was anxious about sharing her message and for people to see her Ted Talks video.

Brene Brown’s message was encouraging, and exactly what I needed at that moment.  It gave me renewed stamina to continue sharing on my blog, to being vulnerable.   While I can’t change what people will say about me, but I can change how I react to them.  I won’t let the critics stop me from sharing what is on my heart.

It’s funny because I thought of this quote on the drive home from the coffee shop, and then Brene Brown mentioned it in her talk.

As Theodore Roosevelt says, “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.

Have A Great Weekend Everyone!

Thank you for reading and your presence at this beach retreat. You Rock! I’m looking forward to hearing your thoughts in the comment section below.

See you at the beach!

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10 Responses to Vulnerability Does Not Equal Weakness

  1. mecyoj

    i don’t always read every post you write, but whenever i swing by your blog, i am truly inspired and encouraged. please keep writing! your words and your thoughts are beautiful.

  2. ariannasrandomthoughts

    Thanks Joyce for your comment and support! You are an amazing friend. Don’t worry I will totally keep writing. I love it too much not to. I just had a tiny moment of being anxious. I didn’t know you blogged. That’s exciting. I just followed you. :)

  3. olivianp

    I just found your blog, thank goodness! I read this just in time when I also feel the same way in sharing my thoughts..but reading yours here has really encouraged me to just keep writing! Thank you so much for sharing! Look forward to your other posts :)

    • ariannasrandomthoughts

      So glad you found my blog Olivia. Thanks for the encouragement. Don’t stop writing! :) I’m looking forward to reading your posts and seeing what you have to say. :)

  4. Tara Jacek

    Your blog has helped me open up more. I started a blog for school several years ago for class and I’ve kept it up for the most part ever since – but it’s been art and design based. Since starting GirlSeeksCareer, I’m watching it develop and really thinking about what I have it to be. I thought I would just be career advice but since reading your blog I think I am opening up more about my struggles with my career and life to let others know we are all in the same boat. No one is perfect. I worry about clients googling me and not approving. But I’m good at my job, I do my best to go beyond expections but I’m still a real person. I can’t worry about what others think. I have enough to stress about.

  5. ariannasrandomthoughts

    Tara, this just made me smile and warms my heart. I loved your story that you shared on my blog. It was so honest and real. It took a lot of strength and courage for you to do that and I commend you. Many people cant even say that let alone post it online. It takes time to develop. Its fun and I’m excited to read your upcoming posts and see what you have to say. If you have input or ideas for my blog, please let me know as you have inspired me too. Just remember to always be you and own your story.

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  6. Pete McPhearson

    Thanks for this. I guess I fight a lot with this kind of thing – hearing Brené Brown talking about it is pretty inspiring.

  7. Anne Sikes

    I relate so much to this. I’ve come to accept, I guess, that there will be those who judge me for some of the things I say. Some won’t understand. There will be some who want me to just shut up, or who don’t care. And there will be some who wonder why I share as much, and think that’s just wrong. It does, most definitely make us vulnerable to open our lives and experiences up in writing…for the world to see.

    At the end of the day, it helps me to write it out…and as I like to put it, ‘keeping it real’. And others relate…not only does it help us, but it helps others too. Frankly, sometimes my life makes no sense to me until I write it out. Ha ha!

    I haven’t read many of your blogs yet, but look forward to reading more of them. Thanks for sharing ‘you’ with the rest of us!

  8. ariannasrandomthoughts

    Thank you Anne for your kind words! I can totally relate as I have dealt with all of those situations regarding this. It is reassuring to know that others have dealt with it as well. I had an acquantaince ask me the other day – what the point is of me writing my blog? They clearly do not understand me. I will not let their comments influence my behaviour :)
    I’m so glad you found my blog – looking forward to reading more from your blog too!

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